Why Aren't We Happier?

Why Aren't We Happier?
Author: Anita Burnett

Why aren't we Happier? More now than even before. We always said we'd be happy when our kids got out of college, or when our kids move out, or when we retire.

Most of us are better off than our parents. We live in nicer homes than they did. We have access to more assistance and free help than they ever did for their problems. We drive nicer cars. And yet we are more miserable than we should be.

Are you the cause of your unhappiness? It's probably not going to make you happy to hear this, but I bet you are. I know I was. I tried to blame everything and everyone for my problems or my lack of success. But the day I chose to follow Marci Shimoff's advise my life began to turn around. Marci is just one of the many motivational speakers that have convinced me that I must take 100% responsibility for my own happiness.

Marci states in the book The Secret, " Many people in Western culture are striving for success. They want the great home, they want their businesses to work, they want all these outer things. But what we found in our reasearch is that having these outer things thinking they're going to bring us happiness, but it's backward. You need to go for the inner joy, the inner peace, the inner vision first, and then all of the outer things appear."

Find your inner joy and learn how to keep it through all things. Share your joy with all you meet. I know your thinking, she's crazy. But truly, share your joy with everyone you meet, even if a smile is all you have to give. To those that you know, share your joy by complimenting or encouraging them.

Learn how to forgive and forget. Why we waste one moment of our joy on something that happened in our past that cannot be changed is a huge problem. We are all guilty of it. Instead of forgiving the situation and yourself for your part, we rehash it over and over in our mind as if the outcome may change. Forgive others, forgive yourself and move on. Be content to know that the purpose of such events is for the lesson learned and the ability to choose differently the next time a similar situation presents itself.

Learn to give service. Happiness is aquired from the simple act of serving others. Whenever you can help another, bring joy to their day, you recieve joy in return. Anytime you bring happiness to the life of another, you bring happiness to your own. When you find joy and happiness in all the little things going on around you, the natural response of the universe is to bring you more of the same. It is the fundamental principle of the law of attraction. Whatever feelings you are devoting your energy is the same energy you are attracting from the universe.

Allow yourself to open up to the possiblity that you can control more of what happens in your life. With passion and purpose, joy and gratitude your life will create new opportunities for you and your family.

If you find yourself having trouble smiling and staying happy, think back to the happiest time in your life that automatically makes you smile just thinking about it. Write it down on a card or note and carry it with you at all times. If you find yourself feeling depressed or stressed, get out this card and remember your happy time. You might feel alittle weird at first, but do it. Do it everytime you start to have negative thoughts, Do it when the driver infront of you does something stupid. Learn not to waste one second of your life on negative events or negative people.

Try it for 1 month, 30 days, or 4 weeks. Watch your life change if you truly apply this task.

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Anita Burnett, Life Style Mentor and Successful Entrepreneur, is helping many become the next success story. Whether you're looking to create an extra few thousand dollars per month, be an ex-corporate executive, or the next millionaire Mom, Anita can assist you to create a second stream of income and greater peace of mind. visit : Success